Does it Really Matter? – Andrea Leavitt
One question I have pondered personally and been asked professionally is, “Does it Really Matter?” This question often comes from someone whose elder family member or friend has lost physical and/or mental capacity. They are not the same person we once knew.
We wonder –
Does my loved one know it’s me?
Does my presence matter?
These scenarios are awkward and can be uncomfortable. The ill person can’t or doesn’t respond the way they would have in the past. Maybe they are actively dying or absorbed in a debilitating disease and unable to respond.
Does my presence or my actions matter? How do I deal with the discomfort of the moment?
Comforting words, Touch and Music are some foundations for interactions like these. They bring meaning, warmth and connection.
There are terrific resources available on this topic.
The short answer to the question – “Does it Really Matter?” is Yes. Whatever you bring to the elder – brief or lingering, matters.
It all matters.